What’s Your Story And How Do You Share Your Story To Make An Impact

What is your story and how do you share your story to make an impact?

My guest on this show is a good friend of mine, Rachel Beck, who has shared her incredible story in her book, “Finding Your Way When Life Changes Your Plans” about many of her experiences facing racism, health issues, and more.  Rachel’s story, in and of itself, would seem like much of what many have had to deal with over the years here in America and abroad.  But, Rachel brings in stories and shares her personal truths as she rips open many of the wounds of the past in her book.

Knowing how to share one’s story and how to help others is extremely important – not only in business or life – but for humanity’s sake.  We need to keep reminding others of how issues may arise and keep us reminded of where we’re going to avoid repeating mistakes of the past.

Listen in as Rachel and I talk about each other’s stories and how you can possibly relate, especially as we are dropping this episode on International Women’s Day 2022!

About Rachel: Rachel Beck is a rising voice in the movement of women’s storytelling. It is rooted in a cross-cultural, adoptive-family love story unlike any other. Lifted up by wings strengthened through struggle, Rachel’s story flies in the face of society’s expectations for women to look a “certain way” and slip comfortably into the American Dream. Not that our cultural dreams aren’t beautiful, yet what happens when life changes our plans?

Rachel’s heartbreakingly humorous anecdotes of initially coping, then soul-searching, and ultimately releasing anger at her body and the world shines with insight into the deepest core questions of human relationships and identity. Who am I, and why am I here in this wild world, really? With vulnerability and grace, Rachel simultaneously captures and frees the emotions surrounding all sides of adoption, her intense encounters with racism, her path to a loss of motherhood, and her courageous renaissance — illustrating how “the end” of one road is only the beginning of another…and the unforeseen is also beautiful and perhaps more fulfilling than we could have ever imagined.

Connect with Rachel on LinkedIn

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Welcome to another episode of MOJO: The Meaning of Life & Business. On today’s program we’re going to be talking about getting to a point of putting your story into a book, and what that means to be in a position to share so much of what make somebody tick what makes somebody grow what

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makes somebody change enough that the information that is now in your book is going to be shared with so many more people.

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And so i’m really pleased that on today’s program we’ve got an incredible guest and Rachel Beck, who is going to be our guest on the program.

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But before I bring Rachel, in, let me tell you a little bit more about her, see, you know why she’s such a great gust to be on this program, Rachel Beck is a rising voice and the movement of Women’s

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storytelling it’s rooted in a cross-cultural adoptive family love, story unlike any other, lifted up by wings strengthened through struggle.

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Rachel’s story flies in the face of society’s expectations for women to look certain white comfortably into the American dream.

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Not that our cultural dreams Aren’t beautiful yet what happens when life changes our plans.

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Rachel’s heartbreakingly humorous anecdotes of initially coping than sole searching, and ultimately releasing anger at her body in the world, shines with insight into the deepest

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core questions of human relationships and identity. Who am I?

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And why am here in this wild world with vulnerability and grace?

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Rachel simultaneously captures and freezing emotions surrounding all side of adoption from intense encounters with racism.

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Her path to a loss of motherhood, and her courageous Renaissance, illustrating how the end of one road is only the beginning of another, and the unforeseen is also beautiful, and perhaps more fulfilling than we could

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have ever imagined, Rachel, thank you so much for being here, and that’s just well.

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Your story from your bio is incredible. Let me ask you, as we bring you in our conversation today, so much going on that you have been dealing with.

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How did you manage to to get through so much of what was thrown your way in terms of loss of motherhood, the racism, the issues that you are facing have?

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How did you manage to just deal with that? Thank you, Jennifer. Thank you so much for having me on your show today really is my honor and privilege.

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I think the world is so. Thank you for having me absolutely.

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Thank you, It has been lot of hitting the ground falling down.

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Then having to pull deep inside my soul to get back up again, and I can see those moments the where I made that choice.

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I have fallen jen so many times I i’ve lost count of it, that it was choice. it was choice, and I have to say I’m very blessed because I have a strong support system I have family, and friends who got through me

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so through the hardest times in my life. But it was a choice.

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And was it easy sometimes, Jen no it wasn’t whether days that I just wanted with the blanket over my head and stay there absolutely absolutely.

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So as we look at having those days and i’m sure a lot of us have been there and have tried different ways of trying to figure out, what do we do when we’re in that situation?

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What were some of the things that you found worked for you to help you get out from under the covers, and there are a couple things. I don’t know if you know this, but I have ptsd I was diagnosed with

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it many years back, due to deeply traumatic situation, and I had to, you know.

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I’m very pro or this is just me share my story but i’m extremely pro therapy right and because I’ve had so much trauma in my life. i’ve had very strong therapists to get me through

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it, and I was taught certain tricks to survive because a lot of it has been about.

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So I will. So some of the things that I did as a choice is, people needed me.

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People needed me for the very serious things that they were facing in their life, or what they were going through.

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My dogs needed me. Near that time I had 2 dogs. I had a lab and another dog who was a rescue.

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They got me through it. They were a huge source of strength for me, and so i’d get up.

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You know. I’m a huge walker I do that every day.

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So those are choice today. They needed me. So I got up and spent the time with them and went through all of it.

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My art got me through it a lot of it i’m a retired photographer, but I did that for 10 years, and now I do it as a hobby.

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If I’m not being creative, my soul will die I know that about myself, like my soul will die, and I will not be who I am today.

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So my art helped me get got me through it, my disappearing int nature, and just being gone for a couple hours deep in the woods or down by the ocean.

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So i’ve learned to through tools i’ve learned to listen to what my soul needs, and I’ve I’ve come to a point where will listen to my soul guiding me.

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Does it guide me the right times? Absolutely not jen made a lot of mistakes in my life.

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I’m human. We are they made wrong choices Yes, of course I have.

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So i’ve listened to my soul i’ve had 3 near death experiences, and it was actually someone had studied me for part of her paper, which was getting a meshes i’ve had 3 near death experiences and I

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remember when the third one happened, because she had interviewed me in the second one had happened.

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And you know she was doing this paper, you know, in the coffee shop is you know what I mean in sections.

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And then I had the third new death experience and I said to her don’t know why this keeps happening to me, and she said I could tell you right now, because your story is not done.

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Wow, your story is not done, and that is such a powerful statement.

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Your story is not done, I mean, if you think about it, a lot of us are sitting here trying to figure out the existential questions in the world.

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What is the meaning of life? That is one of the greatest questions.

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And and just because Monty python patience my head and the hitchhiker’s guys of the galaxy, I have to say 42 for those of you that know that I have to throw that out

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just because we need a little bit of that lightness, interjected.

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But not that It’s that point I mean a lot of us have certainly been dealing with the issues and not to belittle what you were just saying.

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I mean, that was absolutely incredible, going through everything and having that statement because your story is not yet done.

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So let me ask you, then, as you went to start writing your book then, and looking at it as a way to there, some of that story that is not yet done yet.

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How did you go about looking at the book and getting the book to a position of acting in some therapeutic fashion for you as well in writing that?

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So let me tell you, this is a beautiful story you’re gonna love This: Okay.

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The idea of of the book actually came from one of my girlfriends.

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She actually know how we you and I talk about seeing what to see.

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Something inside of somebody bring it out. they don’t necessarily see in themselves.

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The most beautiful thing that you can give to another human being.

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So I had gone i’m in my mid fortys right i’m, climbing up to 15.

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I’m very proud of that and she’d call me and gone back to school in my fortys, finished my degree, and she had called me.

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I had met her in India, and then she traveled back and we definitely feel like it was, you know, met to me, and she said, You know, rage I’m sitting here and I said Yeah, she said, I feel very strongly in my heart you need

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to write a book. the celebrity talking about i’m not an author that’s not, you know the that’s not what I do.

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She was. Do me a favor. Sit down, and she knows my like.

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Knew my life story, she said. Do me favorite. Just sit down in your computer.

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Tell me what happens but the first day, and ended up writing 5 h, and it was like that every single day, and I wrote the book for like in August, in October I hired a publisher, who was also my

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editor, and I called her when I was done, and I said, How did you know?

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I said, how’d you know you had a I had a book inside me, she said.

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I knew it. I just wanted you to see it, and it was what a beautiful saying!

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1 one of your you know, girlfriends in your life says you Say, Jen, I see you’re gonna be a future artist, Jen, you’re gonna walk this world.

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Jen you’re gonna be successful. jen everything that you deserve is gonna come your way.

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Everything that you ever want or need or jen you know what you’re thinking about doing this.

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Then go for it. We all need those people in our lives to see something that we don’t see in ourselves.

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So that’s how the book came about that’s exactly and it was I had to relive a lot of Traumas writing the book, because you you know, for an author I write from a cellular level and it’s hard to

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explain that. so it was tapping into all of it again.

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Things that i’d closed down in my mind things that I had experienced.

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I never wanted to experience. I mean there were moments jen i’m not gonna lie to you.

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I was crying, Why, I was typing because i’m reliving reliving it. I’m we living you know the miscarriages I we live in every , everything my body’s gone through.

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And we’re living all those moments I mean it brought up the grief which you know grief comes in waves, and it’s like a tidal wave.

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You’re doing great when we move something happens and you’re starting all over again, and with the grief and Ptsd.

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I can certainly relate as a 9 over 11 survivor it’s something that every year is back in the forefront internal of for all of the families that want their loved ones for all the survivors we all have our

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own traumas that were that we dealt with, and are still dealing with, 20 plus years after the fact.

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But for so many people that Grief and the Ptsd.

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And all of the incidents that happened up until this point in our lives have created such a place in our, so that when we look at trying to figure out what we can do, we very often feel even more lost though for you to be in

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a position that you are able to write the book and get that on paper. Get the publisher to take and release it, and put it out there definitely.

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An incredible story, and i’m going to just share with our listeners. The name of the book is finding your way when life changes your plans. A memoir of adoption, loss of motherhood, and remembering home so can you just tell us

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a little bit more about the actual story in the book that we can really get a better idea who Rachel actually is.

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Yeah, I was on. Thank you for asking, Jen. I was born in India.

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My mom died 2 days after giving birth. I am looking for my biological father.

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That’s been adjourning I was put into the founder of into her home, who was building orphanage, which is still standing there today.

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She actually rescued me. I was borderline dying and she was a nurse, and she had founded this orphanage, and she took me in, and she saved my life.

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So i’ve actually had 3 mothers right my biological my Foster, Mom and I stayed in her home till I was adopted, as you know, by a Jewish family in America.

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That’s how I became an Indian jewish woman and then my mother, who raised me great.

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So i’m looking for and so i’ve been fighting from my lives since I’m.

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2 days old, and I I I just realized fighting for my lifeers.

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And so himself, saying that to survive say God you survive, because you have been in a position to help so many people, because those that’s two-day old stealth did not give up, because through all of those near death situations that

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you are dealing with. You did not give up or given.

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You have continued to be shining beacon so many people, simply because you have continued to fight.

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You have continued to be a voice. And for those of you that are listening, Rachel, on Linkedin has weekly videos that she does that reach so many people. and the uplifting stories that are shared in so many of those

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videos. You don’t even know how many hundreds or thousands if not more people.

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You touching simply because that story was shared, and you continue to move forward.

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And so it really an incredible celebration! the fact that you have been fighting since you are 2 days old, If you think about where all of us have come, and all of us are in our own lives, what do we need to do how do we

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do and everything, because we’re all having our own fights at different times.

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And it’s our human instinctual nature to keep on pushing and going and doing what we can to really make that difference in the world.

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There’s a idea and Judaism called tecoon alum fixing the world, and it is all because of what we do that that is, drives what we’re supposed to be doing in the world.

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And so from what you have been dealing with, and the that you were dealt right, the miscarriages and the health issues, and your biological mom dying, And you know all of the racism that you faced here in the Us.

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Even has been such an important story, and it you liver of what you share every time you speak.

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And it’s really important because for everyone that’s listening you’ve all had your own flavors, too.

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There’s a saying that I heard life is like a Schmorgus board.

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What are you going to take from it and it’s exactly that idea that when you are looking at your life and you’re taking a little bit of this and a little bit of that and you’re putting it all together you’re marrying, the different

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flavors that are in your life, which is going to be making a huge impact in terms of where we go, and that Rachel, I think, is where the a lot of your strains has been coming from Thank you for being a caring and

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empathetic human being and I love you for it jennifer.

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It’s just something i’m trying every day you understand what i’m trying to do. You understand that i’m trying to make this world a better place.

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You understand that i’m i’m trying to lived other souls up that are good, kind soul that they just need a little bit of help, and that’s what you and I are trying to do which we’re trying to like those

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Sosa, those kind, beautiful souls that just need like a little help.

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I find it really, really freshering it’s the kind people who are changing this world, taking it forward doing the best, the best, as whether they’re running charities.

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You know what I mean. Those kind people who are suffering.

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I. I hear from them all day long that just need that one moment.

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They just need that one break. They just need one human being to believe in them.

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But they’re out there and and they’re doing phenomenal things, and then you know i’ll hear from them say raising and read funding for this and they have their you know during the most freaking important work in this

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world, and it is beyond frustrating me that they can’t get that help.

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So that is why I have chose to do what i’m doing with this show is to get people and that’s absolutely a an incredible motives to really make a difference, and to reach more people like you are saying to find those

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souls to find what it is that really can make a difference in the world, and who knows what tomorrow is going to bring?

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You know, they say yesterday is the past tomorrow’s the future today is the present, and we have to honor it as the gift that we were given.

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And so the more that we continue to look at what it is that we’re doing today to make that difference that way tomorrow is a brighter future for everybody.

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Really an incredible story, and that really goes to the idea of even the name of this show.

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Mojo, the meaning of life and business it’s not just business alone, anything else, because we need life.

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We need business to help in life and so there’s all of these issues that are out there, and when we’re looking at what we’re doing all of these issues like, we said, Come back and remind us who we are set its

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shapes. There are future in a much better late. Let me ask you, in your experience with the book and your experience with the publicity that you had after the book, and where you are with where you want to ultimately get the messaging through

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you mentioned to find those souls and to touch the people.

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What drives you, though, to keep going even when sorry I can tell you I’m very happy to share with you. so you know I’ve shared with you privately that part of the persons in my book are going back to the war

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fines that that’s what I’m doing you and I both know about Saddam Hussein.

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I don’t know about ticona lum jen I have this major goal that i’m trying to hit the major major goal.

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I don’t forget where I come from and it is concerning like around.

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It is around the orphanage, and things that I have in my heart that I would like to do for them.

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But it’s. Why, you see me get up every single day then until I hit that goal. i’m not gonna stop my purpose has nothing to do with me.

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Not one freaking bit. People don’t know that about me they don’t take the time to learn my story.

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They think that i’m out there we will have such misconceptions.

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But about social media influencers they don’t understand us they don’t take the time to understand us so and that’s why I’ve been in the show for 3 years.

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It’s exactly why it’s introduced this is a real human being.

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I’m trying to humanize social media and said Number 250,000 is my friend Jennifer Glass.

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But please meet her today. she’s a real human being with a heart and soul.

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So what i’m trying to I want to I don’t care if people call me naive about it.

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I am gonna do everything my power to end racism, to end anti-semitism.

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I have huge ideas around it. I have discussions, I I I see it in my head.

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I know that it is possible, and i’ve been speaking on diversity awareness.

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For 15 years in many different, many different avenues so i’m, deeply passionate that I will use my voice to end racism and to run and anti-semitism.

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So let me ask you with the that you’re doing and the experience of the anti-semitism and racism.

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Would you be open to sharing some of those issues that absolutely It’s your lots of because i’ve had divorced experiences, racial incidence in my life.

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The last couple of years I get kicked out of places because they call it risk.

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It type. People think that this only happens in the 1,900 fiftys.

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And so, whatever you know what I mean like a long time ago, before civil rights laws passed, I get kicked out of places cause the columnist skin.

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I’m told that my credit card is not real that there’s no way I could afford one.

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I’m followed up to places and followed in store i’ve actually been followed to physical homes that I own right where people have followed me down the street, making sure that I actually live there, and they followed up to my front door I

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get followed and stores. I have been told I can’t shop places.

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I can never, ever afford it. The whole you know there’s a vibe right.

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There’s a vibe that i’m an empath so I pick up on people’s lives jen summers things that have happened, or even downloads scary people bing on my glass. door my car i’ve had that happen twice this

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year, asking me what my race is i’ve had people ask me talk down me and call me the i’m not even say the names here.

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I’m sure you can imagine what they are the worst names ever complete strangers, whether it’s a derogatory name for the column of skin, or for being a Jewish person and i’m proud to be an Indian Jewish

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woman. i’ve done a apologizing for that and I will know longer do it.

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I’m done stepping into a place of conforming to make other peoples comfortable.

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Now. I want people to be comfortable with me And, Jen.

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It is taking me years to come to this place I Don’t Want apologize to being an Indian Jewish woman anymore.

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I’ve had some extremely scary incidences where and you know how it’s going to end up.

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You know I don’t know if i’d be talking with you today.

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People. It amazes me. People send me messages. and They say racism that still exists in 2,022.

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Yes, it does, and that’s why you and I are having this conversation right?

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This is exactly why you, you and I are having this conversation, because it very much does exist.

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I told You get i’ll leave an email needed to I was picking up an obviously and go back to this restaurant to spend money there again.

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I’ll never see another dime for me I was like picking up an order, and someone said, You need your kind needs to stand in the front those last year.

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Gem that was like, and it’s a excuse me and they said, You’re kind, sustained in the fine, if you know you and I both know I have a voice the strong horses, So I almost walk outside that restaurant

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film a video to say who they were and what they were doing, and they didn’t because I thought of employees and the people of their jobs.

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And so that have you know we need. We need your kind to stand in the front.

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You know, Nancy, excuse me. like we really don’t need you in the back, you know, and this is exactly how the conversation went, Jen, because I will never forget.

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I came home from beyond fears we don’t really need you in the back.

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What’s customers. that was the last year Jim there was a year ago.

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So yeah, it’s very much it’s very much very and obviously, and spend money down here.

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We go back there. We don’t get my money you you know it’s just not gonna happen.

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So, and so all that stuff instead of I choose to let this right way.

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I rise above it. I set the example I don’t return heat with heat.

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What I do is I take love I put it over hate and that’s how I freakin when that’s exactly how i’m going to do.

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It. I would never lower my standards. I would never lower go to their level.

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I will not engage with them lots of times when things happen to regen very scary situation.

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Human people i’m walking mining my own business and people are screaming the end word to me that was last year, and i’m lining my own business taking a walk so yeah i’m i’m going to

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that’s a sad state of affairs. that that’s the world that we’re living in. and I mean you think about all of the progress that has been made, and you look at the last several years.

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The rise of anti-semitism across the globe, so scary a rise of anti-asian incidents just because of Covid and

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Issues related to that issues still in the wake of the Ahmed arborey case of the

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The 3 white men who killed the black guy and all the other stories that have been going on and on, that have been continuing to share our news, continuing to shape the way that we’re looking at things.

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And this is 2022 when we’re recording this interview which is incredible.

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Think that that’s still you know 60 years after almost 60 years after the signing in the Civil Rights Act, that this is still going on.

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And what’s happening. I mean it’s just we’re trying to figure out where we go.

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And a lot of it is going to be education. it’s going to be keeping our kids from learning the same hatred, because we know hatred is a learned emotion.

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It’s not innate if you have 3 babies sitting there.

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One is a white baby. one is a black baby, one is an Asian baby.

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The 3 of them are going to play together because that’s what babies do.

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They don’t see color. They don’t see where they don’t see anything that is going to mean anything different to them.

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So we really need to stop this hatred and one of the things that I’ve been saying all along is any time that we give foreign aid from the United States to an international government.

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We need to be putting in requirements against hatred removing that kind of information from any textbook that’s taught in school.

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If you look in many places that’s exactly what’s still in those same box internally, we need to do something as well.

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We need to be figuring out. What is it that we can do?

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That is going to make that difference The more that we see where we’re going to be the more that we know we’re going to be making that tomorrow a better tomorrow for all people.

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Yes, I know i’m going back to my Utopian ideas I don’t see that as a problem now, and i’m sure a lot of you that are listening don’t honestly see that as a problem either again we

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weren’t put on this world to make it worse we were put on this world to make it better for tomorrow.

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No matter what religion you are even if you’re an atheist. you have to believe that there’s a greater purpose in life.

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It’s not to destroy the planet it’s not to destroy mankind. And that’s exactly I think, Rachel, where you are coming from with your book with your speaking with your influencing that you are trying to make such a

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difference. I Try every day shooting that’s why I want to talk about 2 things that you said, because I have some stories about that.

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So I was sitting the playground. He has his listening to came into my head, and I stayed.

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I’m So I mined in psych and gender studies right, and I studied a lot about law and I studied a lot about you know, sociology, and they took a class and read, You know, racial history in this country and

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then took a class on family. Well, as you were talking and racism, if anybody gets this message, and I think Jen you guys can’t see us in this conversation.

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But Jen saw my reaction racism is a trauma and it’s a very deep deep deep painful trauma, and I, Jen, i’ll share with you person I just had an experience last week just last week and i’m just sharing

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that book. Now i’m sharing it it’s right just having experience last week.

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And what happens, Jen. And if your listeners get this for me? One racial trauma opens up, brings back every other one that I had.

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One racial trauma brings. back every other racist experience I’ve had the it is that deep over trauma, and that’s where people might not understand.

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And when you were talking about the children, I would say want to say, like 20 years back, I was at a playground, and I witnessed that I saw 3 children of different ethnic backgrounds playing together part of like 2 and they’re having the best time, and then

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sandbox, building their sand castles, and a person came up and pulled, which I said, Oh, my gosh! you said there was a Mickey, but it was like with my finding their Tim like.

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Well, my guys are having the best time can she stay for like 10 min.

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We’re still building the walls and the woman looks at me and she goes.

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No i’m, like Oh, why, they’re having so much she said. it like my child will not play with these children and my girlfriend, and I, who both highly educated.

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We looked at each other and go and there’s a beginning of hate. That child was 2 years old in the sandbox, and all he you know she wanted to do is build sand castles be kid, and when we knew it we’re like

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that’s the beginning of hate so I 100% agree with you that it is taught behavior.

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I have studied this. It is a fact now saying that i’ve also.

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I’ve talk to people who grew up in racist homes right, not by choice.

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That’s just what was passed down to it now what’s beautiful is many of them left in 18 and started their lives all over, and and I’ve I’ve discussed what was the wage I didn’t have a choice

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K. to 18. This is what my family taught me what am I into I’m. in that home, but they would leave go to college and become the own person.

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So it is a choice. It is absolutely a choice and but for people to understand It is, it is so much trauma for human being to experience.

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And that’s really a terrible ways to be dealing with life I mean there’s so much positive, and life there’s so much get so much to give, and it goes back to the idea what are you doing in terms of giving back

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to your community are you giving back right in what ways are you giving back one of the things that I was taught by my parents was that when a community gives you so much, whether it’s through friendship through help through connection through whatever the community

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is giving you. You have to give back. I have been teaching my kids the exact same thing, and I lead by example.

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I serve on so many boards, and commissions that sometimes people wonder how I get anything done just because I am on all of these boards and commissions, and it’s because of the fact that I believe that the stronger our communities

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get , the better. The nation gets and it’s not just United States of America.

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It’s across the globe there’s no reason that any foreign nation shouldn’t have the same benefit one of the things that I have been long pushing, and i’m going to share it here is when we help our people

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get new jobs, more money, get the training They need to be in a position to do that.

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We help lift them up when we lift them up. A lot of the socioeconomic issues that are present in the lower socioeconomic regions start going away.

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When we provide more education, we give a lot of these kids more opportunities to get out of those areas that are going to be in a position to hurt them.

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We give our communities a chance to be increasing in value in education and lifespan health, in happiness and success.

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We start seeing a decrease in crime, we start seeing a decrease and obesity, because people know how to eat better and have access to better food.

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We start seeing better jobs, we start seeing better opportunities for everybody and it’s not a problem.

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We have to maintain a bottom, 1% and a top.

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1%, and everybody else. there’s no reason that we can’t make people better.

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And I’m not saying this is a socialist communist or anything.

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I’m saying it as a realist who believes that it’s totally possible to be helping our people yet a better foothold in life to leave a better tomorrow.

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The more that we see where we’re going the more that we see how we’re going to be making that change That’s going to be creating even more opportunity.

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Everybody on this planet can be in a better position. and I think Rachel, with your story, with your book, with your speaking.

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There’s a lot of that that you’re trying to start doing, and a lot of that that you are reaching people in terms of where they go, and the message that you’re trying to leave them with.

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And I think that that’s really a major testament to the power of getting out there and shining a light, and being that beacon that can really draw a lot of people to you and leave a lot of people , a better

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position after hearing you Thank you, Jen, for your beautiful words and it’s, our jobs as human beings right.

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You, and I think the same way. we need to leave people better than we found them, and that is, it is so beyond necessary now that I can’t even begin to say you and I both know it We know how much people are struggling they’re

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hurting they’re scared they’re anxiety written I mean that’s That’s the reality. what’s going on. What’s going on right now?

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I mean that that’s real life you know nobody’s living in this unicorn rainbow world. it doesn’t it doesn’t exist otherwise it’d be there I would pack up and I would go because i’ve had

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enough pain in trauma to last me the rest of my lifetime and my life.

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Times After that I pack up and go to like jen i’m moving to the University of England.

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But we know it doesn’t, exist, that’s not there but we better lead people better than we found them, and I think that’s a great place for us to, and our conversation shared that we have to leave people in a better way.

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Then we found them, and so as you’re thinking about what you’re going to be doing today.

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Think about what you are going to be offering as community community service, volunteering, giving to others and giving does not have to even mean, necessarily volunteering time.

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It can be a simple complement when you’re in the supermarket.

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Can you tell the cashier and the people that you’re dealing with you.

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Did a great job. Can you tell somebody that you’re walking down the street, and just say, have a nice day when you see the person who’s taking the shopping card at the supermarket parking lot.

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Can you tell them? Thank you, too. You never know how a simple comment can make the world to so many people.

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We don’t know how many people are fighting mental illness and severe depression.

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They mask it extremely well, and when you go and you say something positive, simply like, have a nice day.

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You see me, i’m not invisible I mean all too often.

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We go past the keeping staff, and the janitorial staff in various entities, and they based on the walls because we’re so harried.

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But we don’t have to say that that’s what they are.

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We can recognize them. we can say, Hello! How are you? Thank you.

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Have a nice day when they see that people recognize them that they’re not invisible.

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Start getting a better outlook on life, too, and that can be your community service.

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Have absolutely nothing else. So on that note this has been another episode of MOJO: The Meaning of Life & Business. Thank you, Rachel, for being my guest, and until next time, here’s to your success